Well, the first time I wrote a blog about defining my passions, it was before Dave and I got married- so it is now my second passion, my husband, Dave. Before we got married on July 30, we had been dating for almost four years. We have really been through it all together. Me transitioning from running over 20 miles a week to him talking me into starting CrossFit (really forcing, since he stopped doing his bootcamp). Us both transitioning from eating personal pizzas, to eating the zone, to the paleo, to Whole 9. From him working at a globo-gym to actually stepping out and using his entrepreneurial mind and starting his own business. From me hating the idea, to me still wondering sometimes what we got ourselves into, but loving the opportunities it has given us and the people we have been able to meet and impact through this. From me wanting to be a teacher, to me wanting to serve and help my husband and his company any way I can. From us having 20 members at CFDC, to having well over 100 members in regular classes and over 100 athletes during the summer.
To say the Lord has blessed our lives is an understatement. It’s pretty eye-opening at the Lord’s grace and love when I think about how many awful mistakes we both have made these last four years and yet the Lord continues to pour down his love and mercy on our lives. We are certainly grateful, but more times than not we think about ourselves before others. It’s a flaw within us all, and more me than Dave, but we are all selfish human beings. My relationship with Dave has taught me how selfish I really am, and therefore, my relationship with him is a passion. You’d think the last thing I want to know and face is that I am incredibly selfish, but in the heat of every moment when I think “the reason I am mad right now is because Dave has done something that is making life harder for me” I am astounded at my selfish heart. Dave, more than any other person, has shown me this. Probably because I have allowed myself to be the most vulnerable with him, but also because he won’t allow me to have my way every time. Somehow I think he knew this was best for me all along, because these selfish epiphanies began very early on.
Our relationship has also taught me how to relax a little… just a little. Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m pretty much always on edge. Relaxation and easy-goingness has never been an attribute I would use to describe myself. In every aspect of life I’m usually finding something to stress about. Dave on the other hand is laid back about pretty much everything. Although in the beginning this was a cause of aggravation, I have learned that it creates an awesome balance between the two of us. I might be stressed, but he very calmly helps me solve problems. And slowly, very very, very slowly I am becoming a tiny bit better about relaxing when things get tough.
With all this being said, I am very happy with the man I have chosen to marry. It could have been someone else, but I chose THIS man to spend my life with, and I couldn’t be happier. He is a passion of mine, because I know from experience that our relationship be perfect by chance. It will be successful through hard work and determination, and a LOT of faith in the Lord. I love you, Dave.